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Wednesday, January 28, 2009


Certainly, by now, most of you will have heard about the woman in California who gave birth to octuplets last week. The mother thought she was "just" carrying seven babies, so the eighth one surprised everyone. (How the word "just" can be used in that sentence is a mystery.)

So, here is my confession.

My first thought when I heard this story was, "Why are you implanting so many embryos?" That fertility doctor needs a Come-to-Jesus meeting.

My second thought was, "HOW, HOW, HOW can she have eight healthy babies, born nine weeks early, all weighing less than 2lbs each, when my one baby, born "only" six weeks early, weighing 6lbs suffered the typical preemie brain injury?"

I know I'm judgmental. Tar me now. It's just not fair.

I try to avoid TLC channel in the evenings because there's bound to be an episode (or ten) of Jon and Kate Plus Eight or The Duggars (although, truth be told, I was quite fascinated by the "Duggar Wedding"). Six preemie babies, all perfectly healthy, walking, running, jumping, talking. Eighteen freakin' kids, all healthy and spry in their jean skirts or khakis.

I don't wish brain-injured children on these parents. Of course not. I just wish life were more fair. (And, as soon as those words are typed out, I realize that half the world looks at my life with envy.) I'd just ask for ONE. One perfectly-abled Ellie.

Boo hoo to me.


Sunny said...

I feel your pain. BLAH!

Amy said...

Oh my heavens Chrystie, I think the same thing all the time. Though I have the same curiouis fascination with these TLC families, I have aske the same gut-wrenching questions myself. Just ONE LORD, JUST ONE!! I love my Emma, who was born term, but injured so serioiusly at birth. How can someone have 18 healthy babies?? How?? I did everything right. WHY US LORD?? I know God did not do this to Emma, but I still can't figure it out!! SO, I too, feel you pain!!

Amanda Tougas said...

Hi Christi! I don't know if you remember me, but I used to be Barb and Ross's little neighbor Mandy. I have been following your blog for awhile know and just thought I would leave a comment this time. I don't know exactly what you are going through, but I myself have had some of these same feelings. I have been blessed with three children. My oldest has epilepsy and my youngest was born close to 34 weeks. In between my last two we lost a baby also. After saying all this I just wanted to share the fact that I think your a pretty special woman to be able to handle what God sends your way because he doesn't bless just anybody with these special children.

Anonymous said...

I hate me some Duggars. For real. (hug)

K D said...

I have been following your blog for awhile. I'm not sure exactly how I landed here, but have valued so much having someone further down the road and seeing that while things aren't maybe how we dreamed, they are beautiful in their own way. thanks.

My daugher has CP (etc, etc) from an in utero stroke when her identical twin died at around 22 wks gestation.

Anyway this post topic is exactly what has been bugging me all lunch hour. You took the words out of my mouth.